In Loving Memory of
Alexandra Diengdoh Pavel
After almost two years of battling two aggressive cancers, Alex passed away on 17th May 2021 at the age of 29.
Throughout her life Alex has been cherished and loved by her friends, colleagues and family for her humour, wit, compassion, understanding and down-to-earth approach to life and death.
She was known for her wicked sense of humour till the last days, always posting inspirational quotes such as “I must not fear, fear is the mind killer”. Her rules of engagement were no pity, no bombardment of questions but she welcomed dark jokes at her expense.
Her strong will and determination to fight the dreadful disease by all means included in her last moments, a virtual experience of the ocean or a sail ship, a room spray that smells of the sea and a feast for the senses.
She was an accomplished writer, has published a book of short stories and comics, currently working on a novel in a series of six to seven. She was also a talented artist and a gifted musician, playing the piano, duitara (traditional Khasi instrument), violin and guitar.
Above all she was ever ready to support those in need from helping Mother Theresa’s nuns in St Petersburg with cooking and feeding the old and sick to other activities such as victim support and providing moral support and comfort to friends.
Alex left a huge void in our lives and shattered our hopes and dreams.
Rest in peace our beloved angel, we will be together again in a better world.
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Book Owner: Nicolae and Jordana
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Eileen Chan
My sweet, beautiful, Alex. Ever since we met in Nottingham I always knew that you were someone I could depend on. We hung out almost every night after class and I still remember how much fun we had pirating every episode of Ugly Betty on the school’s shoddy internet. I loved the time that we had together and so thankful that I had you by my side when I felt so far from home. Even after all this time I always felt like I could count on you, even though you were half way around the world. Throughout the years I’ve known you, you have never failed to amaze me with your creativity, talent and hard work. I looked forward to every October so that I could see you pump out masterpiece after masterpiece literally daily. When times became difficult, you showed everyone what it meant to be strong. You inspire me to be better and do better. I am very grateful for the friendship that we had and it is with a heavy heart that I have to say goodbye to you, Alex. I miss you and love you my dear friend and I will always keep a…
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Sarah Mason Howorth
Alex was one of my closest friends in graduate school and I was — still am — honored she called me a friend. Alex was one of the smartest, most talented people I’ve known, but also so strikingly kind and humble. Alex absorbed information easily, crafted words seemingly effortlessly, and was so genuinely interested in the world around her and inside her mind. I was always struck by how deeply Alex would know something. She was incredibly talented in writing and drawing and academia, but it was fueled by such sincere interest and desire for understanding and knowledge of the subject at hand. From what I could tell, she did not do things well strictly to impress, but because she couldn’t do them any other way. When she set her mind to something, she learned it and knew it so well it couldn’t be anything but exceptional. She was creative, but intelligent and precise in her creativity. She was self-aware, but not self-conscious. She knew her own mind — even when we met in our early 20s , when so few people know their mind — and was unapologetic — something I found so refreshing coming from an environment…
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Ulrika Meegolla
Alex was a very special person and it was a priviledge to have known her. She was talented, kind, inspiring and had an ability to make you laugh – she was an absolute credit to you both and I am so very sorry for your loss. …
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Fanaye Solomon Yirga
I still cannot believe it, nor can many of our old classmates from ICS in Addis Ababa. Alex did not have long on this earth, but she made the most of the time she had. She was a source of light, warmth, and creative inspiration to all who knew her, myself included. Please accept my deepest condolences as I keep your family in my thoughts. My dear Alex, I will never forget your grace, talents and sense of humor. Rest well, friend….
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Pankaj & Simmi Srivastava
Respected Ma’am & sir Our heartfelt condolences for this irreplaceable loss. We still fondly remember her as a bright & lovely child. Going back to the days in Addis. Hope HE gives you the strength to bear the loss. Simmi & Pankaj …
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Aashish Khadia
I feel privileged and honoured to have known Alex. She was inspiring, talented and had a superb sense of humour. I will always remember our time working together at the University. Whenever I hear of GDPR I always think of the fun we had discussing titles for the guidebook you were working on and the sheer frustration you had with FOI and SAR requests (which brought out the real Alex!). I remember being in awe of the fantastic artwork you created for our office and knew you were destined for bigger and better things. Thank you for the memories. Shine bright and rest easy my friend….
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Snædís Góa Guðmundsdóttir
“How do you pick up the threads of an old life? How do you go on, when in your heart, you begin to understand, there is no going back? There are some things that time cannot mend. Some hurts that go too deep… that have taken hold” – J.R.R Tolkien. My darling twin – Even though I first met you back in Edinburgh in 2012, when we were studying together, it seems that you have always been part of my life. Our love for the ocean, books, Disney movies, good food, along with everything that looks cute and fluffy just worked. It is so strange that sometimes our minds were still in sync even though the Atlantic Ocean was between us. I’m grateful for many moments, those of adding to our travel list and what to taste on those travels. Sitting in graduation wondering if they will pronounce our names right, our catch up in Brighton. I will always be the most grateful that you took the trip to Iceland to come to my wedding, I will always treasure that whole experience. Moments of amazing times, especially the trip we took the day after the wedding. You saw horses…
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Harry
Dear Nicolae and Jordana i cannot claim i know Alex personally well. But through limited work contacts, and what is more through you in the past two years, I feel I know about Alex a lot more. Let me start with, I believe, a true story: Once upon a time, a businessman was flying in business class on a business trip. While passengers were enjoying their after-meal drinks, the loud speaker was turned on, “Ladies and gentlemen, the Captain has turned on the Fasten Seatbelt sign. We are now crossing a zone of turbulence. Please …”. The man nearby was very frightened as the plane started to shake violently. He asked the businessman who was reflexed and continuing drinking, “Have you died before?” “No, Sir! I have lived before.”, said the businessman firmly with a smile. Your Alex has truly lived in an exptraordinary way few of her peers could match. Culturally rich with privileged inheritance, Alex demonstrated the best of your combined merits and qualities in a variety of ways: intellectual and intercultural, strong and determined, multi-talented and creative, resilient and positive, quiet and sociable, open-minded and traditional, just to mention a few. Your Alex reached out to a wider…
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Ayesha Khalique
Alex and I became friends when we were at university together in Nottingham. She was so kind, thoughtful and intelligent, and brilliantly witty! Even through the difficult past years, Alex showed exceptional courage, creativity (her drawings were amazing!) and wisdom – she really will be missed by us all. Sending deepest condolences to Alex’s family – I am so sorry for your loss, and will never forget what a special soul she was xxx …
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Julia Howe
” What is lovely never dies,But passes into other loveliness, Star-dust, or sea-foam, flower or winged air. ” Thomas Bailey Aldrich To have known Alex was to love her, and it has been such a joy in my life to know your beautiful child. There are no words for such an unimaginable loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Alex was a shining light that imprinted on all of our lives and will continue to do so. She will be remembered fondly and missed dreadfully. May she rest in peace. Julia…
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Fozia
It’s been a week already but I still can’t take it in. Alex you were a whacky creative soul with a heart of gold and I can’t believe you’re gone. Even though we only worked together for a short time you inspired me to work harder at my creative stuff. Your constant motivation and your whacky sense of humour made life at work so much better. I hope you finally be at rest now. Riposa in pace Bella. …
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Anthea Ilpide
It’s been over a week since you left us, and it still feels so surreal. You were a beautiful soul, funny and bright. You lit up every conversation with your energy and positivity. I remember sitting in the Barbican Theatre with you, where we were watching ‘Hamlet’ starring Benedict Cumberbatch, and the words you said when the curtain dropped for the interval still ring in my ears: ‘THIS is how you do an interval!’. You were referring to the sheer brilliance of the way that particular production built suspense before the curtain drop, and I fully agreed with you. Your enthusiasm was contagious, and to this day it remains the best play I’ve ever seen in London. Which is saying something, because I am well into the hundreds now! The point is that ‘Hamlet’ tops them all not only because it genuinely was a fantastic production, but also and most importantly, because you were the best person to watch it with. Your love for the arts shone through that day, as it always did, and I will forever cherish the conversations we had about writing, theatre and movies. I wish we’d had more, and hope we’ll meet again one…
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Pradeep and Kiran
Our deepest condolences on the untimely demise of an angel Alex. We met her when she was a baby in Berlin and remember her as a God sent gift to her noble parents and she grew up to be a shining light not only for her family but all the people who got to know her. While we share your inconsolable grief Judy and Pavel, we pray Alex will rest in peace in the presence of her Maker. …
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David
It’s with a heavy heart that I write this. I have met Alexandra several times over the years. Alexandra was a quiet, thoughtful, intelligent human being who had her promising bright future suddenly cut short – life can be very cruel. Alexandra, you still are a shinning star in all our lives. May You Rest in Peace…
