MEL

Mel. A. Harding - 1963 - 2021

We celebrate and give thanks for Mel’s life!

Thank you all who wrote about Mel! So many beautiful, heartwarming, strengthening and heartfelt comments. You can still add yours as we keep this memorial page going. Scroll down to Condolence Book, where you can add your words to Mel and also add pictures. We have not met all of his friends or work colleagues, but it is a joy for the family to read from them.

We have received so much love and felt all your prayers. We all have to learn to continue life without our Mel. He and the examples he set live on in us, in all who’s heart he touched.

Peace & blessings to all!

 

Quotation

" Yea though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for thou art with me, thy rod and thy staff, they comfort me. Thou preparest a table before me, in the presence of mine enemies; thou annointest my head with oil, my cup runneth over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life; and I will dwell in the house of The Most High forever. "

Psalm 23

Photocards

Mel and his car
Mel with wife Denise
Mel's young family
The King and his disciples
Mel and his Sons
Harding Boys!

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Biography

THE SHOCKING TRUTH ABOUT MEL’S DEATH:

MEL was admitted to QEH by ambulance and diagnosed with a bleeding in the brain.

It turned out that Mel had very little blood in the brain and the chance of survival was indeed very high.
He died of “Pulmonary Thromboembolism” – blood in the lungs.
He was put in a coma and a basic, standard practice was forgotten: no “circulation stockings” were applied to his legs and hence the blood was able to travel into the lungs.
This was overlooked by at least 10 different doctors and countless nurses.

The hospital has now informed us, that they are not responsible and will not accept liability. Even though the medical records clearly show their deadly mistake.
So one has to wonder:

How many patients died like this before?
And: How many more will have to die before they care?

A hospital, which refuses to admit and take responsibility for it’s mistakes, cannot and will not improve.

We have lost our Mel and nothing can bring him back, but we owe it to all who yet have to be admitted to this hospital. And to the ones who also died, because something was forgotten and no one noticed nor cared. We now know and can proof that Mel’s death could and should have been avoided. We, the family and friends of Mel are sad and angry and we will not just let this go!

 

MEL A. Harding 1963 – 2021

Mel was born on January 8, 1963 to Hyacinth Phillips (nee Harding) and the late Maurice Phillips. He grew up with his older brother Anthony and sisters Ann, Sonia, Marina and Deborah in the Bayland, where everyone loved him. He was affectionately called Peter by his family and close friends (another nickname he was given was “Pouchie”). Once “little Peter” outgrew his childhood asthma with the loving care of his mother he could hardly be kept indoors. He loved the sea, became a passionate surfer and could be found catching the early morning waves. All his siblings were avid readers and they enjoyed playing many games together. Mel was a thinker from very young and was extremely good at the game of Chess. He went to Bay Primary School, then on to Coleridge and Parry Secondary School and later earned several A-Levels at the A-Level Institute.

At 24 years old Mel lived an independent life as a free-lance cosmetologist and tenanted a house in St. Lawrence gap, where he met Denise Meier from Switzerland. 

1987 Mel married Denise and a few months later they moved to Switzerland where they lived for a year. Mel improved his German language skills and when they moved back to Barbados, he found employment as activities host at the famous Sam Lord’s Castle Hotel.

1989 Mel and Denise became the owners and resident managers of “Rio Guest House” in St. Lawrence gap and jointly worked on the improvement of their new business, where they welcomed budget travelers from all over the world.

1989 their first son, Jermaine-Alexander was born and Mel was overjoyed to become a father. 

To gain extra income he started working at Hotel Divi Southwinds and became one of the best time share sales executives on the island. However, he spent every free minute with his young family and continued to assist his wife with the management of and improvements to their guest house. In a very short time Mel had developed many valuable skills in different fields and left a lasting impression on colleagues and visitors alike, with his beautiful character, his incomparable conflict resolution skills and his winning smile.

1993 Mel and Denise’s second son, Jamar-Angelo was born and the small family was complete and incredibly happy.

Mel was a devoted father and husband, spent all his free time with his family and always made sure, they had everything they needed. He always put his own wishes last. His hobbies then were playing with his sons, buggy-boarding and swimming with his sons and wife, Tennis and the full-contact sport Kempo Karate, practiced by the whole family.

1993  Mel formed, together with 2 partners, the first recycling company on the island called “Envirotech”. He was the managing director and started shaping the company and its possibilities. He employed over 25 people and they recycled glass, plastics, newsprint, paint solvents, automotive tires and batteries and old cooking oil and under Mel’s management the company flourished and grew quickly. Recycled materials were sent as far as China. Mel visited many schools and lectured about the importance and the possibilities of recycling. He also had several TV appearances to inform and teach the public about Reduce, Reuse and Recycle. He had great plans and ideas and tried his best to get the government on board. 

From 1995 to 2002 Mel held many meetings, wrote several detailed proposals, made analyses & predictions and tried his at-most to encourage the government to adopt better practices regarding waste management. No matter which party was in power, now matter which Minister of health in charge, Mel contacted and met them all and never gave up hope.

What happened then was strange to say the least and it came as a wake-up call as to business practices here. Mel and his partners were offered a tempting business deal by one of the large business conglomerates of the island. But because they also demanded majority shares of the company, Mel and his partners refused the offer. Soon after, many things changed and by 2004 Mel was forced to close his business and seek employment again. 

2005 Mel was back in the timeshare sales business as he was offered a position as the Sales Manager at the Jolly Harbour Resort in Antigua. But after full-filing his contractural obligations, he moved back to Barbados as he missed his family too much. 

He found employment at the famous Crane Resort, first in the timeshare & property sales department and then throughout the years as Manager of many other departments. He became familiar with the whole resort operation and left his mark wherever he was involved. With his amazing skills, knowledge and human qualities he quickly became a friend, colleague and mentor to many and he was an outstanding and dedicated hotel manager. Always punctual, always willing to help, always kind and patient and always leading by example. That was Mel!

After making sure that his sons and wife had everything, he was preparing to finally full-fill his dream to visit Africa. His hobbies now were surfing, studying the bible & old scriptures and researching everything about Africa. 

Mel was a very strong and healthy man and after a normal working day at the Crane, he went to bed on August 31, 2021 without any complaints. In the early morning hours of September 1st, he had his first seizure, which came as a great shock to his wife. He was quickly admitted by ambulance to the emergency department. Tests confirmed that he had bleeding in the brain and after almost 3 days in hospital care, Mel passed away, shortly after midnight of September 3rd, 2021.

Mel had an incredible mind and perfect memory and we are eternally grateful that he shared so much of his knowledge with us. He passed on his wonderful skills & qualities to his sons, Jermaine-Alexander now aged 32 and Jamar-Angelo now 28. Mel has tried his best to make the world a better place and we will carry on his work. 

A true King on earth, we will love and honor him forever and it comforts us to know that he can now rejoice in the shadow of the wings of The Most High.

Funeral

Funeral Location:
Thank you all for your kind thoughts and prayers! Special Thanks for the gorgeous wreaths & flowers to the following (in no particular order): Michael & Mickey Phillips, ALEC, Silver, Keisha, Chaunte, Diane Hunte & family, The Sivers family, Kimonia Creations, Rod & Nell McSween, Neshan, Marquita, Elsie, Shelly & Annie, Paul, Cheryl & Joanne, Wayne & Theo Yarde, Management and staff of the Crane Resort, Members of Malvern Cricket & Social Club, Auntie Pat & family, Management and staff of Nassco, Thank you all very much! Please excuse and feel free to correct any misspelling. Love & respect, Denise, Jermaine and Jamar Harding
Date:
Monday 20th September 2021

Eulogy

MEL – Eulogy (Mel Harding 1963 – 2021)

 

Mel was born to Hyacinth Phillips (nee Harding) and the late Maurice Phillips on January 8, 1963. He grew up with his older brother Anthony and sisters Ann, Sonia, Marina and Deborah in the Bayland, where everyone loved him. He was affectionately called Peter by his family and close friends and another nickname he had was “Pouchie”. Mel loved the outdoors and later became an avid surfer. All his siblings were keen readers and they enjoyed playing games together. Mel was a thinker from very young and was extremely good at the game of Chess. He went to Bay Primary School, then on to Coleridge and Parry Secondary School and later earned several A-Levels at the A-Level Institute.

When Mel lived in St. Lawrence gap he met Denise Meier from Switzerland and on February 26, 1987 they were married.
They lived in Switzerland for a year and Mel improved his German language skills. When they moved back to Barbados, Mel found employment as activities host at the famous Sam Lord’s Castle Hotel.
1989 Mel and Denise became the owners and resident managers of “Rio Guest House” in St. Lawrence gap and jointly worked on the improvement of their new business, where they welcomed budget travelers from all over the world.
In June of 1989 their first son, Jermaine-Alexander was born and Mel was overjoyed to become a father. 
To gain extra income he started working at Hotel Divi Southwinds and became one of the best time share sales executives on the island. 
He spent every free minute with his young family and continued to assist his wife with the management of and improvements to their guest house. In a very short time Mel had developed many valuable skills in different fields and left a lasting impression on colleagues and guests alike, with his beautiful character, his incomparable conflict resolution skills and his winning smile.
in May of 1993 Mel and Denise’s second son, Jamar-Angelo was born and the small family was complete and incredibly happy.
Mel was a devoted father and husband, spent all his free time with his family and always made sure, they had everything they needed. He always put his own wishes last. His hobbies then were playing, buggy-boarding and swimming with his sons and the full-contact sport Kempo Karate, which was practiced by the whole family.
1993 Mel formed, together with 2 partners, the first recycling company on the island called “Envirotech”. He was the managing director and employed over 25 people. They recycled glass, plastics, newsprint, paint solvents, automotive tires, batteries and old cooking oil and under Mel’s management the company flourished and grew quickly. Recycled materials were sent as far as China. Mel visited many schools and lectured about the importance and the possibilities of recycling.
2004 Mel was unfortunately forced to close his business due to circumstances beyond his control.
2005 Mel was back in property sales and accepted a position as Sales Manager at the Jolly Harbour Resort in Antigua. 
But after ful-filling his contractural obligations, he moved back to Barbados as he missed his family too much. 
Soon after he found employment at the famous Crane Resort, first in the timeshare & property sales department and then, throughout the years, as Manager of many other departments. He became familiar with the whole resort operation and left his mark wherever he was involved. With his amazing skills, knowledge and human qualities he quickly became a friend, colleague and mentor to many and he was an outstanding and dedicated hotel manager. Always punctual, always willing to help, always kind and patient and always leading by example. That was Mel!
He always made sure that his sons and wife had everything and was now preparing to finally ful-fill his life-long dream: to visit Africa. His hobbies now were surfing, studying the bible & old scriptures and researching everything about Africa. 
 
2 minutes before midnight on September 2nd, 2021 Mel died at the Queen Elisabeth hospital, where he was admitted 2 days before with a suspected brain aneurysm. This came as a great shock to all, because Mel was very strong and healthy. He leaves to mourn not only his wife and his sons, now aged 32 and 28, but also a large extended international family and friends, colleagues and brothers all over the world.
Mel was a righteous man and it gives us comfort to know that he is now rejoicing in the shadow of the wings of The Most High. Let us give Thanks for and celebrate Mel’s life!

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Last Update: 5th April 2022
Memorial Owner: Denise Harding
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